The Silent Killer - Intimidation
Who intimidates you? And why? And a silent killer? YES!
I'm not talking about those intending to intimidate you but rather those who we FEEL intimidated by for various reasons! Read on....
This subject came up recently at a small intimate gathering of women. The discussion centered around the idea that someone can intimidate us to the point of playing small, hiding and not stepping up and being the real you - for fear of judgement, comparison, expectation, etc. We think they have it all together, the operative word THINK. This thinking is the "silent killer" of your dreams!
I have allowed it too! There is one woman in particular who had intimidated me for years. I would see her posts, listen to her speak, hear all that she was up to and think... "wow, she's got it going on - how can I be more like that?" But the fact is she puts her Spanx on one leg at a time, just like me (and you). And believe me, I know she has her own set of issues!
What causes us to feel intimidated or "not enough"? It circles back to confidence, or lack thereof. What are you doing to grow your confidence - in your business (speaking, networking, expanding in your field) - or your personal life (in relationships, financial empowerment, health and spirituality)? Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Take the next right step (singular step). Find the tools and get support if needed because a lack of confidence can either be the silent killer of your dreams as you step back in the shadows - or the tool to empower you to greatness.
If you are willing to be brutally honest with yourself - understand that when you are intimidated by someone, it's more of a reflection of how you are feeling about you in that moment. Possibly insecure, lacking confidence, imposter syndrome or so many other fears and feelings that can bubble up.
You are wonderfully made, just as you are. You have so much to bring to the world. Don't let someone else's visible success intimidate you because 99% of the time (if not 100%) they have the same feelings of intimidation with someone or something else. (Just picture them pulling on the Spank. No matter your size, it's a dance. No one pulls it on easily!)
P.S. A few weeks back, I had someone tell me I was intimidating to her! Me? With all my faults and flaws and failures. It surprised me, to say the least. But here's the thing... where was she hurting that caused her to feel that way about me? We had the conversation.. and she had the aha moment for herself.
If someone says you intimidate them, don't take it personally. Remember, it is something potentially lacking in them or a fear they are trying to face. It's not you.
