The Power of Perspective and the Trap of Assumption
We all experience life through the lens of our own perspective—shaped by our upbringing, beliefs, experiences, and emotions. But often, without even realizing it, we make assumptions based on that perspective. And when we do, we risk misunderstanding people, misjudging situations, and missing opportunities for connection and clarity.
Let’s break it down.
Perspective vs. Assumption
Perspective is how you see something based on your internal world. It’s personal, valid, and unique.
Assumption is when you take your perspective and treat it as truth without checking the facts.
For example:
You text a friend and don’t get a reply.
Perspective: "Hmm, I wonder if they’re busy or going through something."
Assumption: "They must be mad at me."
See the difference?
Why This Matters
When we don’t pause to question our assumptions, we:
Create false narratives
Trigger unnecessary stress or conflict
Close ourselves off from understanding others
Miss chances to grow, empathize, and connect
Key Takeaways
Perspective is your lens. Assumption is your leap. Learn to notice when you’re leaping.
Curiosity is your superpower. Ask questions before drawing conclusions.
Most misunderstandings come from unspoken assumptions, not intentional harm.
Everyone has a different reality. Honor that yours isn’t the only valid one.
Simple Shifts to Practice
Pause before reacting. Ask yourself: “What else could be true?”
Challenge your inner stories. Are they based on facts or feelings?
Listen more, assume less. Seek to understand before being understood.
Communicate openly. Clarify instead of guessing what others mean.
In writing this, I am also reminded of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Be impeccable with your word.
Don’t take anything personally.
Never make assumptions.
Always do your best.
But that is for another day.
Bottom line - When we shift from assumption to curiosity, we open the door to deeper connection, fewer misunderstandings, and a whole lot more peace.
